We have another story from one our supporters, Vinny, we would like to share with you.
“Hey, my name is Vinny and I am 21. So, my story started when I was almost a teen. My mom and dad divorced and it was obvious she didn't like him. While he wasn’t around he did do the best thing, and prevent the circumcision at birth. My mom didn’t like that and would trash talk being uncut and try to persuade me to want to be cut, I did not want to. She would try to ask is the skin going back and it was a little tight. Well when I was about 12 she took me to the Doctor that she found and was quick to get a diagnosis of phimosis so I could be cut. I was forced against my will to be cut and pulled out of school to have the surgery done. I was highly anxious and traumatized by it the pain I felt was unbearable both emotionally and physically. All feeling down there was lost after it had healed. The worst part was they tried to remove the frenulum and its partially intact leading to pain when it erects.
Fast forward 10 years and when I was in the shower I felt a lump and this plastic like piece came out that was from the stitching that was done. The whole experience has made me terrified of Dr's. My mom brings this up to annoy me at times and doesn’t understand how it is traumatic, and she has even talked to a Doctor at her job who wanted to meet me to "cut more off because not enough skin was removed....". The toll it took on my self-esteem was awful before the surgery I was not a fan of how I looked but after it led to me being very self-conscious, to where I developed an eating disorder anorexia with purging. It became so serious in high school that I had to be hospitalized twice, reaching a weight of 98lbs at my worst (I’m 5ft 8) and after finally finding a therapist who introduced me to natural healing we were working on trying to find the root cause of my eating disorder, the feelings that I was trying to mask with starving. When I brought up the circumcision he wanted to process it more because I was unaware of the impact it caused. It led to feelings of self-hate, loss of control, feeling like you are not in control of your own body.
In terms of dating because of how bad it looks I have not had a girl friend since my freshmen year of high school and I want a relationship so bad, but I don't have the confidence. Also add in the fact that because I have almost no feeling in my penis it takes about 2 hours to get any ejaculation and I can’t stay erect for a long time. I would not wish what I went through on anyone and there needs to be more regulations on parents who force their teens to undergo this awful practice because it affects them physically and mentally.
I’m now in college studying hard for a Masters in clinical psychology and advocating for proper info on the damage circumcision does on the sex life and the person, as well as raising awareness for eating disorders in men because it’s an area that sadly info and treatment is lacking in. As I started to nourish my mind and body being active in groups like this has helped me feel like I’m making a difference, because years ago when I was feeling the way I did, I wish there was a group like this that could have potentially stopped what happened to me. I hope this story can help at least someone.”
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